Women and Lawyers

Men like to play games and they like to play hardball. Women, on the other hand, have been taught that it's not nice to play hardball and that communication and negotiation are the best solutions. However, this tactic simply doesn't work for ruthless people who don't understand how to give as well as take.

I have a friend who isn't divorced yet, but she has made a mistake already. She moved out of her house and left her children with her husband because, as rumor goes (and no one can really tell the truth in any divorce), he cheated on her and she can't stand to be near him. Okay. Fine. But, instead of understanding the game, this woman has chosen to play the victim. What can this cost her? Without an attorney, she could lose the house and custody of her children if he begins to realize that he has grounds for "abandonment" even though he allegedly committed adultery. The issue is that in a game of hardball, you need a lawyer before you decide to take things into your own hand. I have kept lawyers available to me year-round with a pre-paid legal plan and I have never in any instant regretted it. Some people are simply unscrupulous and require someone with equal lack of scruples for them to deal with, and I do admit, that is a lawyer. Nothing right or wrong about that.

Take for instance the case of simmons jannace & stagg. They represented a woman who hired a lawyer after 9/11 to represent her in her claim for compensation from the September 11th Victims Compensation Fund. It was already stated within the guidelines for seeking compensation that contigency fees for lawyers were disfavored. However, this lawyer thought it would be worth his while to then turn around and sue his female client, a widow now, for 2 million dollars for his "fee" in Federal courts. So, she hired another lawyer from the firm of simmons jannace & stagg to represent her. Clearly, a lawyer is entitled to a fee but 2 million dollars to represent one woman? So, simmons jannace & stagg managed to get the case stayed on the argument that the Federal courts had no jurisdiction in the matter, and they agreed. Only state courts have jurisdiction.

So, whether this case goes to state court or not, the implication is obvious. If a lawyer or any unscrupulous person wants to sue you - get yourself a lawyer. Do not talk. Do not negotiate. Simply steer clear and let someone who likes these sorts of games play for you. If the lawyer then wants to sue you, get yourself another lawyer. These people only understand one thing: how to play hardball. They are not interested in justice or fairness, merely money. If you can hire another lawyer who is willing to be paid less that 2 million to get some other lawyer off your back, go for it! Women need to learn how to protect themselves and how to play the game when they choose and how to avoid it completely when they don't want to play it. Let those who like to play, play. And then go on your merry way keeping yourself as free from these shenanigans as you can.